Shoes, vases & figurines flew through the air, some a direct hit. When nothing else presented itself as a weapon, Deborah pounded Ron with her bare fists until her arms wore out & hung limp at her sides. Ron had just confessed to committing adultery.
The next day they went to their pastor for counseling. That night while sitting in their bedroom talking, Deborah asked, "I want to talk to her. Will you give me her number?" He did.
"This is Deborah Hall, Ron's wife." Ron could only imagine what was going on at the other end of the line. "I want you to know that I don't blame you for the affair with my husband. I know that I've not been the kind of wife Ron needed, & I take responsibility for that." She paused, listening.
"I want you to know that I forgive you. I hope you find someone who will not only truly love you but honor you."
Her grace was stunning. "I intend to work on being the best wife Ron could ever want, & if I do my job right, you will not be hearing from my husband again."
Deborah hangs up the phone looks eye to eye with Ron. "You & I are now going to rewrite the future history of our marriage. Let's go to counseling. I forgive you & I promise I will never bring this up, ever again." (From "Same Kind of Different as Me" ch. 14)
Mt 18:21 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?”
Jesus goes on to tell a story of a King who forgave a debt of millions to a servant. That servant then refused to forgive a debt of hundreds. Could a person be forgiven that much yet refuse to forgive so little? Notice what God does when the servant refuses to forgive.
34 In anger his master turned him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.
I think we are our own jailer. We torture ourselves with anger, bitterness, resentment & revenge. But we can let ourselves out of jail by forgiving. Deborah Hall figured that out. True forgiveness means second chances, not holding grudges.