By Creg
We met John at Faith Works last semester. He's a great guy; here is his story.
My
Essential Story
John
Hernandez
When I was first told we would be writing
our story and that through this process two of us would be selected
to give the commencement speech my immediate thought was I hope it
wasn’t me they picked. Not because of some scheduling conflict.
Unemployment has a way of clearing your calendar most days. But just
to be safe I checked anyway and yep, sure enough after Judge Judy my
day was all clear.
So what was really going on? Why wouldn’t
anyone want to get up in front of 200
or so strangers and pour their
heart out? I mean, that’s not so tough, right?
Then it hit me that this is so much bigger
than myself. This is about FaithWorks and the butterfly effect it
creates. And so, upon reflection, it is truly a deep honor to be at
graduation speaking about FaithWorks. Not only did I spend some of
the best weeks of my life at FaithWorks, but it has continued to
define my life in countless ways. But before I can enumerate those
ways we need to take a trip back to the 80’s.
The decade that summed up how big hair could get and how I became who
I was.
When I was eight years old, I started my
first business. Insects fascinated me so I read extensively on bugs.
This was not an easy task. I grew up in a very rough neighborhood and
reading a book was an offense punishable by wedgie. But onward I went
to become the member of the summer reading club. Notice I did not say
a
member but the
member as in one and only. I was too young to realize it at the time
but I think I actually received hate mail from the librarian who had
to come open the library just for me every day during summer break.
At the very least, I don’t think I made her Christmas card list.
So, I take the books and the passion and I collect every insect I
can. Some alive, most pinned to cardboard I had collected and cut
out. I used index cards to write out the descriptions and such and
then I advertised on paper plates to all the neighborhood kids and
charged fifty cents a pop to come see my self-professed, bug museum.
I made like fifteen dollars. Donald Trump look out!
That little venture didn’t make me a bug
mogul but it did motivate me and I lived my life for one central
purpose after that—to make money. My family was poor but I was
sharp and observant. My father was a cook at a restaurant and I could
tell he wanted me to follow that path so he showed me prep and
sautéing but I wasn’t the least bit interested in how flipping
omelets is all in the wrist; I was watching the owners. That’s who
I wanted to be. The cars, the parties, the lifestyle that was my
ticket. I had to find out her secret. At the time, I was 13 and if
you think it is hard to be heard as a 13 year old try being a 13 year
old dishwasher. But I got audience with the owner. More like I
ambushed her on the way in but hey, one man’s ambush is another
man’s elevator pitch so I asked, “How did you get all this?”
She said, “I went to college and I wasn’t afraid to step on
people.” For that moment, I was inspired and terrified. I felt like
one of my own bugs. I had no doubt that she would squash me if the
heels weren’t Prada. The answer got me thinking, “Where could I
go to some of the best colleges and where is the best placed to step
on people. Answer: New York City. The people squashing capital of the
States.
I received my bachelor of Business
Administration, got married, got divorced, got my Masters in Public
Administration, got married, got divorced. Seeing a pattern yet? But
after lots of people squashing, including the people in my life, I
was at the pinnacle of my career with the people skills of Attila the
Hun and I was so alone. So utterly alone. Not lonely. Not like no
people were around. I’m talking no one was living inside of me.
Even my soul had abandoned me. Everyone around me could only take so
much before the bags were packed and the cabs were called. But I
forged on with the indignant, what was so wrong with me? There was no
detracting life force encapsulating me.
I wasn’t a drug user or an alcoholic or
a wife beater. I didn’t come from an abusive family, nobody put
their cigarettes out on me or chained me up in a closet. I was highly
educated, sharp and hard working. And soulless.
Then I asked myself, “What did I
want?”
But simply asking myself what I wanted was
easy. Another far more powerful question that can be much harder to
explore, but has the potential to bring about breathtaking clarity,
is simply: What do I fear? And I feared lack of success as defined by
a 13 year old dishwashing insect entrepreneur.
That’s where I was when FaithWorks found
me. In the deepest, darkest mid-life crisis anyone could imagine. I
had had everything and then in one swoop of the divorce pen I had
nothing. Worse, I was less than nothing; no home, no car, no career,
no money, no hope. It would have taken two of me just to equal zero.
But through FaithWorks, the scattered
scraps of myself started to add up again and I discovered that I did
indeed have a detracting life force and maybe it wasn’t drugs or
abuse but it was every bit as hostile and detrimental. It was my
separation from God. My soul hadn’t left me, I had kicked my soul
out of the house.
And If you hear nothing else from me
tonight hear this: There is no deeper, darker, damper, deadlier place
than the Hell you live in when separated from God.
Enter the transformational power of
FaithWorks. An initiative that brings together people from all walks
of life; some of whom are off-the-charts in their separation from
God. Some come from environments and communities that told them
they had no gifts. Others had to actively hide their abilities and
passions for fear of being ostracized and ridiculed in a cookie
cutter world. Students come to FaithWorks from every situation, every
ethnicity. Some from educated, affluent families, others from ones
that live at or near poverty. But they — we —I shared a common
passion. That it is never too late to become what you might have
been.
Because of this, whenever we see another
FaithWorks graduate the rest of our lives, we know that we have a
past in common. That both of us have secret powers that you often
keep hidden from regular view. Regardless of how different our
pre-FaithWorks backgrounds may have been, we will feel deeply
connected — like people meeting from a long lost village or family
or galaxy. We will actively seek other potential FaithWorks students
to spread that connection from the community to the edges of
infinity. When others talk about an intellectually or spiritually
challenging experience they had or complain about how hard they had
to work, we will glance at the other grads in the room and share a
quick smile. That smile is a shared moment in which I really feel I
have come to my roots. That I am surrounded by an incredible family
that I am deeply connected to and that I care deeply about.
We have relied on that family atmosphere
and each other’s grace daily but soon we will enter the outside
world and be somewhat taken aback. But as long as your desire to love
is greater than your fear of not being loved, you're on the right
track. A life oriented toward giving is infinitely more rewarding
than a life oriented toward self-preservation. But it doesn’t make
it any less scary out there. ‘Out
there’ will be far less
efficient, far less fair, far less supportive, far less productive,
and far more political than what we may have imagined it to be. There
will be pessimism and cynicism and criticism everywhere. It is easy
to succumb to this, to become cynical or negative ourselves. But if
you do, you separate yourself from God and from the potential that
you all have, and that would be a loss for yourself and for your
fellow man and woman.
So how do we survive life after
FaithWorks? Trust your instincts, trust your passions, trust your
empathy, trust the advice, trust the life skills, trust your love and
most importantly trust your God.Trust
that he has something in store for you just as he did for me with
this speech—something bigger than yourselves. Trust that he will
give you both:peace and success.
Bread on the table while taking your shots at the moon.
And
there are plenty of shots to be taken. We’re at a unique point in
history. Where what once required many people spending many years and
many millions can now be done by a small group of inspired people
from a garage, or in my case, cardboard from a Sears refrigerator
box. Ideas can be dispersed in real-time. Instant collaboration
across continents. Music CD’s can be independently released, books
can be self –published, higher education is just a click away. The
revolutions of our generation — in business, education,
entertainment, social services, religion and even politics — are
not being catalyzed by popes or politicians, but by highly empowered
individuals like ourselves—the change agents of our time — who
can see with clarity how the assumptions of previous generations and
the teachings of Jesus can be expounded upon in a digital age.
These
revolutions often grow out of nothing more than an intense hobby, a
chance meeting or an inspired attempt to see if things can be a
little better. If we can love a little harder and give of ourselves a
little more today than we did yesterday then we will be
successful.
So go forth with your careers, but leave space for
your passions and God’s will. Remember that we are much, much more
than our current station in life. We are future artists and authors,
teachers and typists, dental assistants and dog breeders. And if we
give our passions room to breathe the spiritual air, we might find
that is
all we need to help us move the dial forward for everyone and TURN IT
UP.
Now, this isn’t just Joyful John Moment Chaser trying to
make you feel good or take the weight of the world off your
shoulders. I will tell you this, however--I know how badly the world
needs each of you. I know how scarce a resource love is and how
important you are to providing it to the world. I also know that
FaithWorks’ graduates, like a tall person who learns to slouch to
not stand out, sometimes undersell who they are, even to themselves.
But
in thirteen weeks, we have mined something from the catacombs of
ourselves more precious than any stone DeBeers could ever wrench from
the earth—Love. Love for God, love for ourselves, love for
relationships, love for all humanity and that—Love— is the truest
measure of success.
Thank you and God bless.
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